Insights

Insight | Sex is play, pleasure is the measure: dropping the orgasm scoreboard

Emily Morse argues for orgasm without pressure and asks what sex is for, Emily Nagoski makes pleasure rather than performance the measure of a good sex life, and urologist Rena Malik reframes sex as play and part of health. Taking the performance goal away from sex lowers anxiety and makes intimacy easier for couples to enjoy and keep up.

31 min read

Insight | Peacemaker, fixer, scapegoat: the family role you can stop playing

Mel Robbins coaches a lifelong family peacemaker and a fixer to step out of those roles, Ramani Durvasula maps the roles in a narcissistic family, Aaron Doughty asks who you had to be as a kid to receive love, and Nicole LePera and Meg Josephson describe childhood archetypes that persist as coping strategies. Seeing your old role as an adaptation, not your identity, makes it possible to show up differently at family gatherings and in adult relationships.

32 min read

Insight | End-of-life regrets point back to people, not achievements

Robert Waldinger draws on 86 years of Harvard data on what people regret at the end, death doula Alua Arthur talks about regrets and forgiveness at the bedside, Mel Robbins replays end-of-life regret as one of her year's most resonant moments, and Arthur Brooks ties family to regret. Looking ahead to those regrets gives a concrete reason to put relationships first while there is still time.

27 min read

Insight | Moods are contagious: why your calm or stress spreads to others

Cesar Millan warns against bringing bad energy home, mediator Bill Eddy explains emotional contagion around high-conflict people, Vanessa Van Edwards says performance and fear are contagious, Susan David discusses social contagion, and Mel Robbins tells parents to let children borrow their confidence. Because the people around you pick up your emotional state, managing your own mood is one of the most direct ways to steady a household or a team.

29 min read

Insight | Faking closeness for a living: an FBI undercover, a CIA officer, a polygraph examiner

An FBI undercover, a CIA officer and a Secret Service polygraph examiner all describe trust as something built from signals that can be performed: consistency, warmth, food, a raised eyebrow, a story that holds up. They differ on how much of yourself goes into the act, but the two who worked closest to the worst people both describe real costs to body, mind and family.

26 min read

Insight | When one partner wants more sex: experts on the mismatched-desire stalemate

Laura Berman describes the 'sex romance stalemate' of mismatched desire, Paul Conti explains sexual mismatch as drives out of balance, Emily Morse helps couples find where they match, and Vanessa Marin describes two types of sex drive. Their accounts show that a gap in libido is common and workable, and that it need not be treated as a verdict on the relationship.

Healthy Communication Techniques

32 min read

Insight | Don't punish the confession: why people tell the truth when it's safe

Secret Service polygraph examiner Brad Beeler says you get the truth by making disclosure feel safe, not by cornering people, the Robbins family's rule is that no one ever gets in trouble for telling the truth, and psychologist Michael Slepian explains how to keep the door open so kids confide their secrets. From interrogation rooms to kitchen tables, reacting harshly to an admission teaches people to hide the next one.

28 min read

Insight | Love at the Edge: Turning Point for One, Lifeline for the Others

In these four conversations, love clearly turned a life around only for KGB illegal Jack Barsky. For veteran Kelsi Sheren it kept her alive until treatment helped, for smuggler Roger Reaves it waited out a career that prison ended, and for fraudster Brett Johnson it was first an excuse for crime and later one of several lifelines, alongside responsibility and therapy.

25 min read

Insight | What a real apology contains, and why 'I was stressed' isn't one

Jefferson Fisher says to apologize for what your stress did to the other person, not for being stressed, Becky Kennedy lays out the anatomy of a good apology, Esther Perel links apology to accountability and forgiveness, Lori Gottlieb separates shame from guilt in apologizing, and the Robbins kids credit their parents for apologizing fast. Knowing what an apology has to include stops people from offering excuses that leave the other person more hurt.

Healthy Communication Techniques

27 min read

Insight | What Porn Does to Relationships: A Urologist, Therapist, Pastor and Two Psychologists

Five experts approach pornography from different angles. Urologist Rena Malik treats it as a habit to manage, sex therapist Laura Berman as miseducation that honest conversation can correct, Pastor Michael Todd as an addiction that grows in isolation and is undone by transparency, evolutionary psychologist David Buss as a product that exploits an evolved desire, and psychologist Dr. Shefali Tsabary as a force shaping children before they meet real intimacy. They largely agree that porn is a poor teacher, and they divide over whether ordinary use is a problem at all.

28 min read

Insight | Did COVID come from a lab? Metzl, Collins and Jacobsen on origins

Jamie Metzl lays out a circumstantial case for a lab-related origin in Wuhan and criticizes the WHO investigation, NIH director Francis Collins answers questions on whether COVID-19 could have leaked from a lab and what gain-of-function research means, and Annie Jacobsen takes up COVID's origins, the Fauci hearings and the oversight of laboratories. Setting an advocate, an official and a journalist side by side shows what the origin argument rests on and why oversight of risky research is the practical question it leaves.

29 min read

Insight | The debt nobody wants to pay: deficits, Social Security and the big cycle

Peter Thiel discusses the federal deficit and Social Security, Ray Dalio explains how heavy borrowing fits the big cycle behind the rise and decline of empires, Donald Trump talks about tariffs, taxes and the debt, and Kid Rock raises the national debt with Joe Rogan. The same worry comes up in conversations that otherwise have little in common, which shows how far concern about the debt has spread.

20 min read

Insight | Anslinger, Hearst and hemp: how American marijuana prohibition began

Norman Ohler traces the roots of prohibition to Harry Anslinger and Hearst from his archive research, Tulsi Gabbard discusses the forgotten value of hemp and how it was banned, and Jeff Dye and Joe Rogan go through the fraudulent history of weed laws. Knowing how the ban came about gives context to today's arguments over rescheduling and legalization.

14 min read

Insight | Bud Light and Jaguar: what happens when brands enter the culture war

Kid Rock tells the story behind shooting cases of Bud Light and later befriending Anheuser-Busch's CEO, Shane Gillis talks about Bud Light's comeback and his loyalty to the brand, Tim Dillon describes culture-war exhaustion over Barbie and Bud Light, Sam Tallent takes up the Bud Light and Dylan Mulvaney fight, and the Protect Our Parks comics discuss Jaguar, brands and politics. The boycott became a reference point for how a product can turn into a political badge, and these conversations show both the anger and the fatigue it produced.

20 min read

Insight | Lockdowns, focused protection or rapid tests: the pandemic strategies compared

Jay Bhattacharya makes the case against lockdowns and for focused protection of the most vulnerable, Michael Mina argues that cheap rapid tests used at home were a powerful tool and explains why the US lacked them, and Francis Collins discusses rapid tests and getting out of the pandemic. Comparing the strategies that were argued for is a practical way to think about the next outbreak.

19 min read

Insight | The Puerto Rico joke: comedians on Tony Hinchcliffe, context and pile-ons

The Triggernometry hosts discuss the uproar over Tony Hinchcliffe's joke about Puerto Rico at a Trump rally and comedy taken out of context, the Protect Our Parks comics talk about the pile-on and why roasts matter, Dave Smith ties the episode to the end of cancel culture, and Theo Von and Joe Rogan revisit the Madison Square Garden joke after the election. The episode is a case study in what happens when a roast comic's joke is treated as a political statement.

16 min read

Insight | The TikTok ban: national security threat or surveillance and speech fight?

Jonathan Haidt calls TikTok a national security issue, Tulsi Gabbard ties the TikTok ban to the expansion of FISA surveillance and to government power, Kurt Metzger discusses the proposed ban together with surveillance, and former CIA officer Mike Baker takes up TikTok along with foreign governments' use of social media. The dispute sets two fears against each other, a foreign government's reach into American phones and Washington's own power over what Americans may use.

17 min read

Insight | COVID vaccine safety: Pfizer's CEO, the NIH director and their critics

Pfizer CEO Albert Bourla explains how the vaccine was built so fast and answers questions on safety and trust, NIH director Francis Collins discusses vaccine hesitancy and misinformation, Jay Bhattacharya talks about safety monitoring and hesitancy, John Abramson examines Pfizer's vaccine data, Bret Weinstein argues the case against the COVID shots, and Robert F. Kennedy Jr. gives his views on Big Pharma and the vaccine debate. Hearing the maker, an official and the critics on the same questions lets a reader separate the disagreements about data from the disagreements about trust.

27 min read

Insight | Why ordinary people take part in atrocity: historians, a rabbi and commentators

Norman Naimark explains why ordinary people participate in mass killing, Robert Proctor describes charisma, propaganda and ordinary people under the Nazis, Rabbi David Wolpe speaks about the Holocaust, tribalism and the capacity for evil, Ben Shapiro talks about Hitler's rise and the evil in every heart, Chris Williamson discusses othering, righteousness and the roots of atrocity, and Will Storr describes how stories turn hatred into virtue. Each takes up how people who are not monsters come to do monstrous things, which is a more useful warning than blaming a few villains.

24 min read

Insight | Snowden through four lenses: a reporter, a CIA officer, an FBI agent, a libertarian

Cybersecurity journalist Nicole Perlroth, former CIA covert officer Andrew Bustamante and former FBI agent Chris Tarbell each take up Edward Snowden alongside the intelligence agencies, the NSA, surveillance and the limits of the law, and libertarian Dave Smith raises the idea of pardoning him. Snowden remains a test case for how much secret surveillance a democracy should accept, so it helps to hear from people who reported on that system, worked inside it and argue against it.

19 min read

Insight·Oct 12, 2026

Insight | Disappearing in plain sight: three CIA veterans on how disguise really works

Former CIA Chief of Disguise Jonna Mendez describes the art of disguise and lifelike masks, former covert officer Mike Baker takes Joe Rogan inside the CIA's disguise unit, and former covert officer Andrew Bustamante explains disguises, cover legends and artificial relationships. Three former CIA officers describe the same craft, which is a practical lesson in how identity is read and how it can be changed.

Insight | Never taught, quietly ashamed: how missing sex education blocks intimacy

Emily Morse says most people had little or no accurate sex education and names shame as one of three desire killers, urologist Rena Malik answers what is normal and takes up insecurities and shame, and Mo Isom argues that the church's silence about sex left young believers struggling in secret. Their shared message is that many people's trouble with sex starts with shame and missing information, which can be put right.