Mel Robbins on Four Ways to Use Music for Mood, Focus, Calm and Healing

The Mel Robbins Podcast· · Episode aired July 29, 2024· 7 min read
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High-Level Overview

In this solo episode, Mel Robbins teaches listeners how to use music as a simple, nearly free tool for changing how they feel and perform. She compares it to a viral kitchen trick for juicing a lemon with a skewer: once you learn the hack, you realize "I've been listening to music all wrong my whole life." She walks through four ways to use sound, each tied to research she has read: nostalgic songs to lift your mood, energetic "walk-on" music to prime your brain before important work, binaural beats to focus or relax, and what she calls angel music, known as solfeggio frequencies, for calm and possibly healing.

The tone is upbeat, warm and personal. Mel fills the episode with her own memories, from 80s middle school dances and a family motorhome trip to a Taylor Swift concert with her daughters and a U2 show in 2017. The episode moves between personal storytelling, plain-language explanations of brain science, and practical protocols you can try right away.

Table of contents

The Discussion Explores:

  • Why songs from your past instantly change your mood, and the idea of "neural nostalgia"
  • How the limbic system records both traumatic and joyful memories through heightened emotion
  • Building mood playlists, and using music to turn chores into a party
  • Using "familiar energetic music" to prime your brain for peak performance, based on a six-year NYU study
  • How binaural beats work as an auditory illusion, and a starter protocol for using them
  • Solfeggio frequencies, a viral Britain's Got Talent performance, and research on sound and cells

Deep Dive into Main Ideas

Hack One: Neural Nostalgia and Your Mood

Mel starts with an experience everyone has had: you are driving, your mind is busy with work or the grocery list, and a favorite song from high school comes on. Without trying, you are transported back. For Mel, that means The Cure and The Specials, Bruce Springsteen's Born in the USA in Western Michigan, the yacht rock her parents always played, the eight-track tapes of Neil Diamond, America and Hooked on Classics from a cross-country motorhome trip in eighth grade, and Barry White's Can't Get Enough of Your Love, her first-dance song with her husband Chris. She also describes seeing Taylor Swift with her adult daughters and feeling like she was both at the concert and back in a 2010 carpool.

She explains that researchers call this "neural nostalgia," and that we tend to have more memories attached to older songs than newer ones. Those songs remind us of times when we had less stress, felt more hopeful and were a little more innocent. Scientists also call this music-evoked autobiographical memory: hearing a song brings back vivid memories and strong emotions, and your body changes immediately. Mel's point is that you have experienced this by accident, and she wants you to start using it on purpose.

Why Memories Get Recorded: The Limbic System

Mel explains that music activates the limbic system, a part of the brain beneath the surface that is involved in learning, memory and emotional responses. She links it to trauma. Years ago she was in a car that rolled in the snow, and to this day, the crunch of snow under her feet can make her feel like she is back in that car. She calls this a negative form of neural nostalgia.

The insight she wants listeners to take away is that the same recording system that stores traumatic moments also stores joyful ones. High emotion, whether fear or delight, tells the limbic system to record everything, which is why you remember details of your graduation or your wedding but not the Thursday before. Repetition also helps lock memories in, like playing one album all summer. She tells the story of seeing U2's Joshua Tree anniversary tour at Gillette Stadium in 2017, a record she played "until the needle broke" as a college freshman in 1987, and feeling like she was at the world's biggest college reunion. Just hearing the opening riff takes her back.

Putting Nostalgia to Work: Playlists

Because the song does the work, Mel says you do not even have to want to feel better. She notes how a sad friend can get annoyed when you put on their favorite song, yet feel better by the time it ends. Her own trick is a disco playlist that starts with YMCA, which she plays after dinner parties so guests start wiggling toward the kitchen with their plates and the dishes become a party instead of a chore.

Her action step is to make playlists in advance, much as people once made mix tapes to communicate emotion to someone they loved. You can create an empty playlist and add songs as they come up, and label playlists by mood, such as a hype playlist, a pick-me-up playlist or a high school favorites playlist. She points out that streaming services already market playlists by mood because they know the science.

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Hack Two: Hype Music to Prime Your Brain

The second type is music you listen to right before something important, like a sports team's walk-on music or a boxer's entrance song. Mel acknowledges it may seem odd to get pumped up before sitting down to concentrate, but she cites a study from NYU's Tandon School of Engineering that tracked people with wearable devices over six years. It measured brain activity as people drank coffee, smelled stimulating scents and listened to music, and found that what researchers called "familiar energetic music" measurably altered brain arousal, even more than coffee did.

She explains this through the beta band, brain wave activity associated with peak cognitive performance, which music increases. The genre does not matter, whether EDM, country or Dua Lipa, as long as it energizes you. She contrasts this with nostalgia music: nostalgia shifts your emotional state, while hype music primes you energetically. Her advice for students, people sitting board exams or anyone walking into a big meeting is to put on headphones, block out anxious energy and walk in "like a boxer in a ring." She reminds listeners that "the best weeks of your life all started with a Monday," and shares the study's hopeful conclusion about a world where we could use simple, available things to change our states of mind "from angry to more peaceful or from afraid to focused and alert."

Hack Three: Binaural Beats for Focus and Calm

Next Mel plays a clip of binaural beats, joking that it sounds like whales swimming by, and says many of her producers use them at work. She explains that they are what scientists call an "auditory illusion." With headphones on, one ear hears a slightly higher note and the other a slightly lower note, and your brain blends them into a third, humming sound that is not actually playing. Different tracks are designed so the brain produces frequencies suited to sleep, focus, creativity or lower stress.

She describes the mechanism as brain wave entrainment: neurons communicate with electrical signals, groups of them create brain waves, and the brain tends to sync with the beat, like objects vibrating near a tuning fork. She cites a Danish study in which patients listened to a relaxation playlist of binaural beats during cataract surgery, something her father had just been through, and found it helped them relax. Her starter protocol: always use headphones or earbuds; begin in a quiet, comfortable place; keep the volume comfortable rather than loud; listen for at least 15 to 30 minutes, with longer sessions possibly better for relaxation or sleep; try listening both before and during focused work to see what suits you; make it part of your daily routine so your brain adapts faster; and use high-quality recordings from reputable sources.

Hack Four: Solfeggio Frequencies, or Angel Music

The final type is what Mel calls angel music, scientifically known as solfeggio frequencies. She first encountered it through a viral clip of 13-year-old Malakai Bayoh on Britain's Got Talent, labeled online as a God frequency, and she plays it for listeners, asking them to notice goosebumps, tears or a shift in their body. She says Simon Cowell called it the best voice he had ever heard, and describes it as neural nostalgia that goes deeper than memory, hitting at a soul level. "It's like a tuning fork for your soul," she says.

She points to research at RMIT in Melbourne, Australia, where scientists used high-frequency sound waves to stimulate stem cells to begin turning into bone cells, and uses it to argue that because the body runs on electrical signals, sound can shift us physiologically. Practically, she suggests listening for 10 minutes, an hour or all day to feel calmer and more at peace. One of her producers, Amy, plays healing frequencies in the background at home and swears her family gets along better.


Conclusion

Mel Robbins wraps up with four simple ways to use sound: nostalgic songs to reset your mood, familiar energetic music to prime your brain for peak performance, binaural beats to help you focus or relax, and solfeggio frequencies to feel calm and centered. The common thread is that your brain and body respond to music automatically, so you only need to press play, and she wants you to use it on purpose rather than by accident. She encourages listeners to build their own playlists, share the episode with anyone studying or facing a big test, and post their favorite songs so the audience can crowdsource the world's greatest playlist. As always, she closes by reminding listeners that she believes in their ability to create a better life.


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